Day two of the three-day quote challenge I was tagged in. It’s just a bit of fun, and a chance to share some of the wisdom we’ve encountered (#1 is here).
Anyway, these are the game rules:
- Thank the person who nominated you. [Thanks, Amy from Awakening Wildflower. Everyone, do check out her blog, it’s a beautifully honest look at life, loss, and all the bits in between)
- Post a quote for three consecutive days and explain why it appeals to you [getting there]
- Nominate bloggers to participate in the challenge each day [Again, I don’t know a lot of bloggers, but if I’ve nominated you and you have no idea who on earth I am then, erm, hello! I read your blog!]
So here’s the quote I picked for today, by JK Rowling, and (surprise!) it’s not from her Harry Potter books (although I must admit that I almost went with something from Dumbledore).
“It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all — in which case, you fail by default.” – JK Rowling, via The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination
The quote comes from the keynote address Rowling delivered at Harvard University’s annual meeting of the Harvard Alumni Association in 2008 (it has since even been turned into a book; and if you’d like to watch the video, check it out here).
First, let me get one thing straight – I have failed at much, much more than reproduction. It’s just one of the biggies, clearly.
It is probably why this quote came to mind as, over lunch, I told my husband how nervous I was about the upcoming cycle. I’m 41, we’ve never had an especially high embryo yield (2 was the most from a cycle. One cycle). It is expensive. We had suffered some pretty spectacular failures. The risks are undeniable. Heck, PGS testing isn’t even allowed where we are. It is hard not to fall into the grips of self-doubt, and question the sanity of trying. and trying again. When do you say “enough”?
Yet, where would I be if I don’t try (besides in the better books of my bank)? How would I feel at 51, 61, 71? I don’t need a crystal ball to know I would probably be consumed by regret, feeling like all of me dies with me.
I know there are many other ways for me/us to create a fuller life. We could adopt, travel the world, do good, etc. But for now, this what I know I need to do. And if I fail, then I will at least know I gave myself – my body, my husband, my faith, the soul who’s waiting for us – that chance. And I would have lived.
Okay, so today, I am going to tag these bloggers, and hope that they will have as much fun with this as I am!
Okay, one more to go!